Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Is She Kidding?

I had to post about this because I just got it in email - and apparently, there was an article written about it in the New York Times. You should probably read the posting and response below first before the editorial from the New York Times.
(NYT article link: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/08/business/media/08golddigger.html?em&ex=1192075200&en=d2254eba774acf26&ei=5087%0A)

The Posting:

What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead
gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

THE ANSWER:
Dear Pers-431649184:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to
believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.


My Take:

Those 'not so good looking' gals on Park Avenue are probably not superficial, shallow gold-diggers like the girl that posted the original message. I have to agree with the Responder - she is risky business...other than looks (which she talks a lot about), she really doesn't bring a lot to the table. She talks nothing about her personality and positive qualities...oh wait, she's articulate (good, she speaks English well) and she's classy...umm, I'd have to disagree with that one - airing your gold-digging frustrations on Craigs List screams everything BUT classy. If she really wants to attract someone, she needs to give us something other than looks (because articulate and classy are out the door at this point) - bring something meaningful to the table - maybe, "I am a 25 year old college grad working as a ...." But instead, her posting, to me, screams shallow. And really, what is keeping her from making her own millions. If she made $250K and the guy she dated before made $250K, then together, they would be able to move to CPW (Central Park West) like she wanted. But it sounds like she's too dumb to even get to six figures - plus she's only 25 - she's probably barely making $40K.

She should've just come out and said it - I'm a gold digger in search of sugar daddy....or I'm Anna Nicole Smith reincarnated...give us SOMETHING to work with!


2 comments:

  1. I like that guy's answer - it was pretty funny. In answer to his question about what happens when Ms. Spectacularly Beautiful's beauty starts to fade, that's when all of his monies will come in handy. Two words - plastic surgery!

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  2. I love this guy - hmmm.... here's an idea - why don't you try to make your own 500k/year? Amen.

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